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Living Life as a Happier Person through the Power of Forgiving.

I’ve been thinking a lot about the subject of happiness and forgiveness – have written a book about happiness – but I’m taking this to another level now. Helping others be happier…

You and I have most likely never met. And, perhaps we will someday. But, I wanted to share with you from my heart something — I care about you and want you to be happier and freer — even if we’ve never met! Will you give me a minute to explain?

My friend…Every day is a new opportunity. We live in a world where there are hurts – and often very unexpectedly. Nobody is immune, right? In the workplace, the marketplace, at home… at church or synagogue. People are people as they say and we are going to have hurts and offenses that try to come at us – intentionally or unintentionally. We are going to have situations where we feel we have failed – ourselves or others… or both.

I believe that mentally strong people (supposedly) don’t dwell in the past… We read this but there are times in our lives – even in the past – that things may almost be too much to bear.  They can weigh heavily on our hearts and minds.

When someone does or says something, we have choices as to how to react, respond… and what to do or say when someone does something that is hurtful or vengeful.  Or, when we hurt others…  Self-control is very useful… but then what about afterwards?

And, what about when you learn that something has hurt you but you can’t quite figure out or know who to blame? Like when someone has backstabbed you but you don’t know who it was – but you were gossiped about and lied on.

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Resentment that is harbored – even for a short time – is painful and that’s something that you will want to guard against in all situations. Resentment and bitterness are second cousins.

You can get past hurt and mistreatment. You can get past resentment. But, let me tell you… that forgiveness is paramount. So, how can we best deal with forgiveness? Do we forgive and forget? And, how is do we forgive and let it go to be able to move on? How do shame and guilt relate?

Can you still be happy after being hurt… or not? Can you still go on and forgive? How important is forgiveness in regards to your health?  And, can you really ever forgive what sometimes seems like it’s too burdensome and cruel to ever forgive? And, what about when you feel that it was all or partly your fault anyway?  And, what if someone hurt you very deeply and they have died?  Can you move on – even if you’ve not yet gotten over “it?”

Things can still work in your favor – no matter who’s hurt you or a loved one. I’m here to share with you…You can go forward – and forgiving is part of the process. The promotion that didn’t come but that went to someone who you felt was less qualified or who doesn’t go the extra mile the way you do – it can still happen later on or tomorrow. Your heart might have been broken – but it can still heal…

Your life is precious – it’s a gift – forgiving is part of the life. But, nobody can do it for you – you have to do it for yourself. If I hadn’t learned to forgive myself and others, I believe that I might have lost my mind by now. My level of toxic thinking might have even killed me. I believe that my level of kindness and compassion wouldn’t be what it is for everyone… in my work and outside of it. Perhaps I would be in such emotional pain that my creativity would have been impaired… There are many “what ifs” scenarios, aren’t there, for each one of us?

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Life goes by so very fast! Every day is a wonderful new opportunity — and we can elect to go forward in spite of negative stuff.  I am able to teach this and help others — because I live it — a life of loving others in spite of what I feel was injustice towards me or my loved ones. We can choose to look at it as not being the final destination in our life’s journey. Read more here and learn about a wonderful tool to help you to forgive yourself and others…and move forward without blame, shame or guilt.

Join me on this teleconference call coming up – if you can’t make it “live,” you’ll have the replay… I know that it will bless you! Click here for information.

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Three Tips to Being Happier In the Workplace

 

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It was years before I recognized that if I was going to be happy at work – whether I liked my job or not – I was going to have to discover or uncover a way to do that. Once I learned how to do that, it didn’t take long for me to not only become happier at work – but to be known for my happy demeanor and attitude of joyful working. I’m not saying it was “easy,” but I am saying that it was my choice and a lot easier and less painful than being miserable where I was. Once I discerned the “how,” it wasn’t long before I started receiving offers for my “dream jobs.”

Here are three basic tips that you can apply TODAY and see the results right away:

  1. Guard your thinking and your tongue. As a Woman of Faith, I am particularly aware of my thinking and how it can or can’t affect my emotional state. If I think positively (for me that includes the Word of God (Bible), then my attitude towards “stuff” will be more in line with the good in situations. And, if I am thinking positively, then I will speak in line with the good as well. My thoughts will determine whether I am anxious, impatient and miserable — OR — calm, patient and happy.

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  1. Tell others (sincerely) how awesome they are. I think it was Ken Blanchard who recently tweeted something along those lines. Complimenting others takes my focus off of the negative things they do and the things others do as well. It brightens their day and mine.

 

 

  1. Be grateful. Sure, the world has a lot of things going on right now that could be “scary.” I choose to be grateful for what I have now. I am grateful for my workplace consulting and writing clients — even if I don’t yet have the kind of income I am anticipating. I am thankful for the clients and the income! I find something to be grateful about every single day and thank God for it. And, I thank others and let them know that I am grateful. Now, that doesn’t mean I become complacent and not work towards progress. That doesn’t even mean that things are “perfect,” but it does mean that I can be happy in spite of my circumstances.

By the way, I couldn’t write about happiness at work if I wasn’t happy “at work.” My learning to be happy inspired others so much… and, being known for my joyfulness and happiness at work I wrote a book about happiness to provide further tips and steps for you to be happier too and not just comfortable. http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1499174276?creativeASIN=1499174276&linkCode=w00&linkId=JWZN3UQNT4M4QUX3&ref_=as_sl_pc_tf_til&tag=change0c-20 Affiliate